{"id":1975,"date":"2014-08-22T10:37:46","date_gmt":"2014-08-22T10:37:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/self-help-4-stroke-plugin-upgrade.local\/?p=1975"},"modified":"2015-05-28T14:17:41","modified_gmt":"2015-05-28T14:17:41","slug":"why-do-we-put-things-off-or-avoid-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/?p=1975","title":{"rendered":"Have I been putting things off?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes we put things off and don&#8217;t realise it. Have a look at the questions below\u00a0 and try to answer\u00a0as honestly as you can.<\/p>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/putting_thingsoff_1975.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<div class=\"mc_box\">\n<div class=\"question\">Q. Since your stroke&#8230;..<br \/>(Select yes or no for each one).<\/p>\n<div class=\"qtotal\" id=\"qtotal\">1\/10<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"answers_box\" id=\"quizcontent\">\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_1\">\n<div class=\"qnum\" id=\"qnum\">1. <\/div>\n<div class=\"answerFull\" id=\"question\">Have you ever made up an excuse to avoid meeting a friend? <\/div>\n<div class=\"radiosFull\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q1T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q1\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q1T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q1F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q1\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q1F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedbackFull\" id=\"feedback\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"buttonsFull\" id=\"navbuttons\">\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"nextbtn\">Next &raquo;<\/div>\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"prevbtn\">&laquo; Prev<\/div>\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"finishbtn\">Finish<\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"feedbackbox\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"buttons\">\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"resetbtn\">Start again<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-1\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\">View text alternative<\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><strong>Since your stroke&#8230;&#8230;.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Have you ever made up an excuse to avoid meeting a friend?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback &#8211; Sometimes it can be difficult to see friends if you are worried about how they will react to you since your stroke.<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you avoid answering the phone?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: You may not like speaking to people on the phone.\u00a0 It is often harder to follow what they are saying and judge their reactions when you can\u2019t see them face to face<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you avoid eating in company?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: If you have problems with eating or swallowing it can be embarrassing if you need to eat more slowly or if you think you make a bit of a mess.<\/p>\n<li><strong>Have you\u00a0deliberately avoided\u00a0someone you know so that you don&#8217;t have to speak to them?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: Speaking with people or even just making \u2018small-talk\u2019 takes effort and concentration. You may also want to avoid having to explain what has happened to you<\/p>\n<li><strong>Have you stopped going to a regular club or social gathering?<\/strong> <\/li>\n<p>Feedback: You may find it easier to speak with people on their own, rather than in a big group.<\/p>\n<li><strong>Are you happy that friends or family do things for you that you could easily\u00a0do yourself?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: Allowing family and friends to do things for you means that you can avoid meeting and speaking with other people, perhaps because you don\u2019t like to be seen using a walking stick or you\u00a0feel flustered in a crowd.<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you find yourself working differently for example\u00a0sending\u00a0someone else\u00a0in place of you for meetings?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: Often a\u00a0stroke causes tiredness and affects memory and concentration. You may feel out of your depth with the job you did before your stroke.<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you have an excuse at the ready to get out\u00a0of meetings\u00a0or leave social functions\u00a0early?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: You may feel the need to give yourself a way of escaping from situations where you feel anxious or uncomfortable<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you use \u2018dutch courage\u2019 to help you cope?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: Sometimes people will use alcohol to try and help calm them if they are anxious or worried (?link to alcohol following a stroke)<\/p>\n<li><strong>Do you act differently in company?<\/strong><\/li>\n<p>Feedback: Trying to act differently to how you feel or &#8220;putting a face on things&#8221;\u00a0can be very tiring. It can also become increasingly difficult to keep up the fa\u00e7ade.\n<\/ol>\n<div><strong>Click here for some feedback<\/strong><\/div>\n<p>(4- 10 yes &#8211; feedback)<br \/>\nYour answers show that you do sometimes\u00a0put things off as a means of dealing with\u00a0difficulties you\u00a0are experiencing since your stroke. This is\u00a0common and allows you to cope with the day to day issues that you are finding challenging.<\/p>\n<p>It is good that you have recognised this. You can now use some of these\u00a0examples in the next section. This may help you in tackling some of these difficulties at a time when you feel ready.<\/p>\n<p>(0 &#8211; 3 yes\u00a0&#8211; Feedback)<br \/>\nYour answers show that you\u00a0occasionally\u00a0put things off as a means of dealing with\u00a0difficulties you\u00a0are experiencing since your stroke. This is\u00a0common and allows you to cope with the day to day issues that you are finding challenging.<\/p>\n<p>It is good that you have recognised this. You can now use some of these\u00a0examples in the next section. This may help you in tackling some of these difficulties at a time when you feel ready.<br \/>\n<\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes we put things off and don&#8217;t realise it. Have a look at the questions below\u00a0 and try to answer\u00a0as honestly as you can. Q. Since your stroke&#8230;..(Select yes or no for each one). 1\/10 1. Have you ever made up an excuse to avoid meeting a friend? 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