{"id":2821,"date":"2014-09-30T09:17:57","date_gmt":"2014-09-30T09:17:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/self-help-4-stroke-plugin-upgrade.local\/?p=2821"},"modified":"2015-06-05T10:47:14","modified_gmt":"2015-06-05T10:47:14","slug":"karen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/?p=2821","title":{"rendered":"Karen"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"100%\" height=\"166\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?url=https%3A\/\/api.soundcloud.com\/tracks\/204359458%3Fsecret_token%3Ds-OXcIr&amp;color=990066&amp;auto_play=false&amp;hide_related=false&amp;show_comments=true&amp;show_user=true&amp;show_reposts=false\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-1\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\">Q. How have others reacted to your stroke (stigma)?<\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"speechquote\"><p>My mum has been great, she\u2019s always been there for me, she listens when I talk and is always there at the end of the phone. My husband Barry was good at first, but I think he is struggling to accept that things are different. I get tired really easily but he just wants me to get on with things, like I always did. My oldest son found it hard to come to terms with &#8211; I think he worries about me. He\u2019s reliant on me but I felt really guilty at the start that I couldn\u2019t take care of him, but we\u2019re working on that. Luckily, mum helped out a lot at the start.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-2\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\"><strong>Q. What about friends?<\/strong><\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"speechquote\"><p>Some of them have been great and encourage me to go out and meet up, but I don\u2019t really think they understand. I meet them for half an hour and they think I\u2019m fine, but they don\u2019t see me when I\u2019m really tired and get my words mixed up. At first, I used to avoid them, because I felt stupid when I forgot my words. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-3\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\"><strong>Q. How has your stroke affected your relationships?<\/strong><\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"speechquote\"><p>My relationship with mum is much stronger, but I feel like my relationship with my husband has changed. He wants me to be how I used to be and gets annoyed when he has to help more about the house. I always used to be busy and on the go, but now I\u2019m not like that, I get tired really easily. To be honest we argue more, he thinks I\u2019m grumpy, and we\u2019re not as close as we used to be. I feel like I can\u2019t talk to him anymore, or maybe he just doesn\u2019t want to listen. With my friends, I don\u2019t see them as often now, maybe I am pushing them away, because I\u2019m worried about what they will think about me. But I made a point of meeting up with my good friend Gayle for a coffee every week and that helped.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-4\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\"><strong>Q. Can people see the effect of your stroke?<\/strong><\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"speechquote\"><p>Not really, I tend to forget words and get tired, but if I look in the mirror I look the same as always. At first, I wanted to scream when people said how well I look, because on the inside I felt totally different. Now, I know they were just trying to make me feel better.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-5\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\"><strong>Q. What\u2019s your take home advice?<\/strong><\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"speechquote\"><p>It\u2019s easy to want to avoid people at first, but I found that spending time with my mum and Gayle and talking about how I felt actually helped. I realise that my life might not be the same again, but I think my husband Barry has not come to terms to with that. He could probably do with having someone to talk to about how he feels about things. It&#8217;s still less than a year since my stroke so hopefully he&#8217;ll come round.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/div>  <\/div><!-- end div.wp-spoiler -->\n<div class=\"brainwave\">\n<h3>Key points<\/h3>\n<p>It&#8217;s important to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>spend time with close friends or family and talk about how you feel<\/li>\n<li>accept that life might not be the same again<\/li>\n<li>realise that change can take time and this will vary from person to person<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Key points It&#8217;s important to: spend time with close friends or family and talk about how you feel accept that life might not be the same again realise that change can take time and this will vary from person to person<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":50,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[147],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2821","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-people-in-my-world-30914"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2821","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/50"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2821"}],"version-history":[{"count":24,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2821\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7885,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2821\/revisions\/7885"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2821"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2821"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2821"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}