{"id":3313,"date":"2014-11-05T15:08:04","date_gmt":"2014-11-05T15:08:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/self-help-4-stroke-plugin-upgrade.local\/?p=3313"},"modified":"2015-06-05T10:35:12","modified_gmt":"2015-06-05T10:35:12","slug":"what-i-can-i-do-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.selfhelp4stroke.org\/?p=3313","title":{"rendered":"How to become more assertive"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There is a difference between being assertive and being aggressive or angry and frustrated.<\/p>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/talking_3313_TF.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<div class=\"mc_box\">\n<div class=\"question\">Q. Which of these is being assertive?. Select Yes or No for each one.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answers_box\">\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_1\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">1.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I am always good at listening to others.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q1T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q1\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q1T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q1F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q1\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q1F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_1\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_2\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">2.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I like to control and dominate the conversation.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q2T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q2\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q2T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q2F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q2\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q2F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_2\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_2\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_3\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">3.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I would say &#8220;This is how we ARE doing it, so tough!&#8221;<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q3T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q3\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q3T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q3F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q3\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q3F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_3\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_3\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_4\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">4.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I would say &#8220;We could do it this way&#8221;.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q4T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q4\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q4T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q4F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q4\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q4F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_4\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_4\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_5\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">5.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I would say &#8220;I don\u2019t mind, whatever you think&#8221;.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q5T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q5\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q5T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q5F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q5\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q5F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_5\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_5\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_6\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">6.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I get tense and stare when in a discussion.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q6T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q6\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q6T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q6F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q6\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q6F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_6\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_6\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" id=\"row_7\">\n<div class=\"qnum\">7.<\/div>\n<div class=\"answer\">I try to relax and keep good eye contact when in a discussion.<\/div>\n<div class=\"radios\"><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q7T\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q7\" value=\"T\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q7T\">Yes<\/label><input class=\"css-checkbox\" id=\"q7F\" type=\"radio\" name=\"q7\" value=\"F\" \/><label class=\"css-label\" for=\"q7F\">No<\/label><\/div>\n<div class=\"feedback\" id=\"feedback_7\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"tickcross\" id=\"tickcross_7\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"buttons\">\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"resetbtn\">Start again<\/div>\n<div class=\"button orange\" id=\"revealbtn\">Reveal answers<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"wp-spoiler-1\" class=\"wp-spoiler wpui-hashable wpui-narrow wpui-styles\" data-style=\"wpui-narrow\">  <h3 class=\"wp-spoiler-title wpui-hashable fade-true slide-true open-false\">View text alternative<\/h3><div class=\"wpui-hidden wp-spoiler-content\"><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I am always good at listening to others. (<em>Feedback: yes, it is important to respect others opinions and share a conversation<\/em>)<\/li>\n<li>I like to control and dominate the conversation. (<em>Feedback: it is important to respect others opinions and share the conversation<\/em>)<\/li>\n<li>I would say \u201cThis is how we ARE doing it, so tough!\u201d (<em>Feedback: this could appear quite aggressive<\/em> )<\/li>\n<li>I would say \u201cWe could do it this way\u201d. (<em>Feedback: yes, you are offering your opinion clearly<\/em>)<\/li>\n<li>I would say \u201c I don\u2019t mind, whatever you think\u201d. (<em>Feedback: if things are important to you, you should give your opinion<\/em>)<\/li>\n<li>I get tense and stare when in a discussion. (<em>Feedback: body language is important in conversations and you may want to work on this<\/em>)<\/li>\n<li>I try to relax and keep good eye contact when in a discussion. 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