13) Kelly and Jean in the Cafe – jumping in too soon

Friends and family want to help as much as they can. This is only natural. However jumping in too soon can be frustrating, especially if you want to give things a try yourself.

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Jean: There you go (places tray of drinks on the table)

Kelly: You know, it’s just so lovely getting out, it’s such a lovely day, I’ve just been looking forward to this for so long, I feel like I’ve been stuck in the house

Jean: I know you asked for coffee, but I’ve brought you tea, I thought that might be better for you

Kelly: Oh right, ok..

Jean moves all the cups of the tray, but doesn’t let Kelly help

Jean: I’ve brought some cakes though

Kelly: right, uh-huh, they look lovely

Jean moves Kelly’s cup away from her, then starts adding sweetner to Kelly’s tea.

Kelly: Oh no, I take sugar in my tea

Jean: Oh no, sweetner’s better for you, much better for you ….. (stirs cup)….there you go (hands over tea)

Jean: Would you like a cake, here let me ..

Kelly: Look, Jean, I can do things for myself, if I don’t start doing things for myself I’ll never learn.

Jean: I’m only trying to help

Kelly: Och, I know you are

Jean: There you go…. (hands over cake)

As you can see this did not work out well. Kelly was frustrated at Jean taking over.

Something to think about

  • Has this happened to you?
  • What were you trying to do at the time?
  • Who was with you?
  • How did you feel?
  • What could have made it better?

Now let’s go on to see what would happen if the situation was different…